It’s All In The Body Language, My Dear

As research for my books, I’ve been looking into the very fascinating subject of ‘Body Language’ this week. If this is an area you haven’t really thought of investigating before, I highly recommend it. I just can’t believe the interesting wealth of information I have discovered on the topic. In particular, I’ve been focussing on the ‘positive’ aspects of body language and how people either consciously or inadvertently use their gestures and physicality to send out signals of friendship and love. Author Leil Lowndes is an internationally recognised communications expert and her books offer fascinating tried and tested techniques for success. She outlines ways to make people behave in exactly the way you want them to towards you in a number of different situations, from work to family to romance. It’s simply A-MA-ZING! And as I’ve been learning, I’ve had so many of those little light bulb moments where you go, “Ahhhh, so that is why that happened! I totes get it now!” For example, sometimes you just can’t understand why you have fallen in love with someone. They are not particularly right for you and never seem to do the best by you, so you are mystified by how and when they suddenly started being far more important in your world than they actually are. Well, one of the things Leil Lowndes describes is that a person who wants you to fall in love with them, will look down at your lips and focus on that part of your face when you are talking to them. I absolutely realised this is what the above described person had been doing to me all along. That was the little evil trick he had up his sleeve! I must say I feel slightly relieved now, as I know there is a scientifically evidenced reason for why I have been so fooled. And then I noticed it again with somebody completely different last week. Somebody I had never given a second thought to for almost a year. But then he pulled out one of Leil’s body language techniques on me and I felt myself going all starry eyed in his presence. I had barely noticed he existed prior to this! Oh my days, this stuff is both dangerous and addictive. It has also made me a little paranoid now that all my innermost thoughts are actually on show. I never realised that what I am doing with my body can reveal so much about what I am feeling inside. It’s great information to use for my Faery Tales characters though. Inserting little actions which betray their relationships to one another is a deeper tool on which to build my storytelling. I’ve just been trying it out on my heroine and her leading man in the moment where they first meet in my new book. As always, if any of the things I’ve said here ring true with you, and you have some stories to share with me, I do so love you getting in touch. Glitter filled wishes and sparkly pink lip-gloss kisses xoxo